Proverbs 15:1 (NIV), "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." The way you're talking to people is what's setting them off. It's your gentleness that reflects the heart of Christ, not your aggressiveness. You will never get positive results when you respond to people in a way that is against the will of God. Change your delivery and you will change how they respond to you. Ask God to help you with that. God bless!